Hoffman Newsletter - UK
The Healing Power of Anger November News 2011 |
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HOFFMAN LISTINGS
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In the first week of November the UK skies light up with fireworks and the glow from hundreds of bonfires. Such organised and often carefully choreographed events can be breathtaking but rather like anger, if they explode in the wrong place at the wrong time the effect can be devastating. In this issue we interview two Hoffman Graduates who talk about how the Process helped them to put anger and depression behind them, one in the context of his working life and one as a parent of young children, with expert comments from one of our Hoffman Teachers, Simon Matthews.
The levels of stress in modern life can lead to such frustration that it can damage both our health and our relationships. The Process gives us a way to express and release any anger or resentment which has built up over our life so that we can begin to heal the pain underneath. This is beautifully expressed in a poem written on the Process by Hoffman Graduate Clare Campbell, see below.
The Process has also been in the news recently with Hoffman Graduate Thandie Newton, talking to the Sunday Telegraph about how she's using past anger as a force to help others. Plus a trio of other Hoffman Graduates are blazing a trail in the Sunday Time's, Style Magazine. If you'd like to find a way to use your energy constructively in your relationships then you may enjoy the next Couples Workshop on Saturday 10th December and the next Singles Workshop is on Saturday 21st January - both in Bloomsbury, London and open to everyone. If, on the other hand, you'd like a taste of how the Process can help you, we have a Hoffman Introduction Day on Saturday 25th February.
If you have done the Process, we still have places left on our Reconnection Day in London on Saturday December 3rd - just in time to stock up on inner peace before Christmas! Wishing you a month of constructive change UK Office Hours:
Monday - Thursday 9.00am to 7.00pm
Friday 9.00am to 5.00pm
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Thandie Newton - Raging Beauty Back to Top
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In a recent interview for the Sunday Telegraph in Stella Magazine, Actor and Director, Thandie Newton reminisces about times when she was exploited as a beautiful but naive young woman. The rage these memories once provoked was something she says shifted on the Hoffman Process. She is now using the experience positively to help other women who are still being exploited, particularly in war-torn countries. As she demonstrates so well, anger can be a fiercely effective launch pad for healing not just ourselves but others too.
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Click to read the full interview
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Thandie on Hoffman:
"It's like being able to start again. You shift baggage you don't even know you've got. It's really smart. I arrived at the Hoffman thinking I am the most uninhibited person on this planet. Wow." She shakes her head. "I am incredibly private. And I needed to shift some rage."
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Hoffman Graduates - Putting on the Style
In the October 16th issue of Style Magazine in the Daily Telegraph, no less than three Hoffman Graduates talk about creating a better life. Model, Daisy Lowe waxes spiritual about the Process. Wendy Mandy is also mentioned who 'sorts out the energy' of famous people and their spaces. MD of Hay House Publishing, Michelle Pilley, who wrote about her experience of the Process in 2001, talks about the fact that 'a deeper trend is emerging - a leaning towards seeking a deeper understanding of our existence. We're seeing this yearning to establish spiritual foundations as an antidote to the crumbling of material security'.
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Hoffman Graduates - Nikki Wyatt interviews Tony Hertz & Viv Chamberlin-Kidd Back to Top
| Using Anger Positively: 'Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die' goes the saying and indeed toxic thoughts create toxic relationships. Denying this very natural human emotion doesn't help - treating it as a signal that something needs to be dealt with, does. The first stage of the Process helps us to take the lid off our inner pressure cooker and express pent up anger from the past. It's only when that has happened that we're able to reach the pain underneath and deal with it. Two Hoffman Graduates talk about how learning to react differently to their anger helped them both at work and at home.
At Peace With The Past - Looking Forward to the Future
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Tony Hertz - Finding Patience
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Tony Hertz's prompt to do the Process in 2009 at 68 years old was approaching retirement. As a radio advertising specialist, visualising life
"When I went to the Hoffman Information Evening I actually wondered if I was screwed up enough to need the Process - it wasn't as though I was at rock bottom or had a disastrous childhood - but after talking to a couple of Hoffman graduates and their teachers I decided to enrol. The Process turned out to be one of the best weeks of my life!
My 'aha' moment was an awareness of my father"...... Read more
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Viv Chamberlin Kidd
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From Self-Judgement to Appreciation
Viv did the Process in 2009 because she felt her resentment and anger was affecting her relationship with her husband and children.
"I'd read loads of self help books and done a lot of therapy but I still expressed my anger in long lectures whereas my husband repressed his. He had a bout of cancer before I did the Process and I felt that this suppression pattern might have been a contributing factor. When I came back from the Process my husband Dave said I seemed more content and accepting of myself, so three months later he did it himself. He returned much less stressed and more open to talking about things. We now provide a far healthier model for our children of how to handle anger. As a family we've started doing..." Read more
Anger As A Signpost To Peace - A Word From Our Expert | |
Simon Matthews
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"Many people think that anger is a negative or destructive force. This is often because they either experienced anger as unsafe in their family of origin or were encouraged to suppress it. There are also strong societal messages and we British just don't "do" anger in the same way as the more expressive Latin peoples do. But anger can very positive in two ways: First it acts as a signpost saying "there's pain here". Where there is anger there is always pain lying underneath and if we are going to discover, come to terms with and ultimately heal our pain then anger shows us the way. Second, anger can be a powerful cathartic force to flush out old resentments and hurts and bring peace. Think of a storm - the thunder rolls and the lightning flashes but afterwards there is a curious peace and freshness in the air."
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Process Poetry - Love, Hope and High Heels Back to Top
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Clare Campbell
Creatively Inspired by the Process
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Extract From 'The Dad Poem' by Clare Campbell
'My dad did his duty
my dad went to work
every day so we had enough
so we could have dreams
to a job that was smaller than him
and the lives he read about
in the books on our shelves
returned tired and mad
hid behind the newspaper
shielded disappointment'
 Visioning On The Process "On the Process you are asked to create a vision for your life a year from now and my vision was to write a book. I actually said to my Process group: "A year from now you'll be able to find me on Amazon - and now you can!"
Anger and Pain
Clare talked about anger and how that is often a masking of deep hurt: 'I had a pattern of suppressing anger and the Process gave me an opportunity to get in touch with it and then get beyond it. I also became aware of my father's pain and frustration; the dreams he gave up to be able to provide for us. I wrote a poem on the Process to express this which is now part of a collection that has been shortlisted for the Polari First Book Prize.
Passing on the Spirit of the Process
As part of my work I go into conferences, prisons and young offenders institutions. I often begin by reading this poem. People tell me later that they've been moved to contact their father afterwards for a heartfelt conversation, so I feel that those of us who do the Process can take the spirit of it with us into places it may not otherwise reach. I'm so creatively inspired now that I've more ideas for books and from January I'm starting to teach painting as a form of meditation'. Visit her at: www.clarecampbell.org
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3 Day Graduate Intensive - 10th - 12th February - Friday to Sunday Back to Top
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Are you feeling a bit jaded and missing that special Hoffman connection?
Here at Hoffman, we've been busy revamping and improving the much loved 3-day Q2 and are very excited to offer you a new and enhanced experience. So come along to Florence House in February 10th - 12th, 2012 and polish up your diamond essence!
The Q2 allows you to build upon your Process work, providing an opportunity to explore some of the areas that you wish to investigate further. It enables you to focus on a particular relationship or challenge what is relevant to your life right now, as well as deepening your Process experience. Unlike the Process, where you have so much past to deal with, the Q2 gives you the gift of focusing on the present and how patterns are affecting you now.
'I was expecting the Q2 to be a refresher course but I also found it very beneficial for working on specific issues. It enabled me to gain much greater insight into my patterns in the context of my current relationships.' Shawn, Psychologist & Trauma Specialist, Brighton
- Learn to integrate your spiritual self into everyday life
- Tips for ongoing maintenance of your Quadrinity
- Focus on how to heal unmet childhood needs
- Create more connection and intimacy in all of your relationships
Remember that you can do the Q2 with partners, friends or siblings and the preparatory work can be done in your lunch break! There are a few places left, so book soon if you'd like to join us.
"Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it" Goethe
Click to book online and for future dates
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| Hoffman Reconnection Day - 3rd December Back to Top |
What are the benefits and what will I gain from a Reconnection Day?
Some of the aims of this event are to help you:
- Check in and rebalance your Quadrinity
- Reconnect you to your Spirit
- Refresh your use of the Process Tools
- Remind you of your Process insights and reinforce your positive changes
- Rekindle a sense of community
- Refresh your vision and clarify your direction
- Laugh, smile and have fun!
- Connect with other Hoffman Graduates old and new, doing group work as well as continuing your own journey. Wend your way home full of insights, inspiring visions, joy and light.
Date: December 3rd
Time: 10.00 - 5.30pm (arrive from 9.30am for refreshments)
Cost: £85 per person
Venue: The Mind Gym, 2 Kensington Square, London W8 5EP Book this event online
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Workshops for Everyone - Building Better Relationships Back to Top
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Christmas is coming...
Once again we are rapidly racing towards the festive season, can you believe it?! Although most of us look forward to this time of year, it can also bring with it many challenges as we spend more time with our loved ones, partners, children, siblings and parents...
As in the famous words of Rumi...
'Think you're enlightened..? Spend a week with your family!'
So if you'd like to have a more 'enlightened' festive experience, come and join Supervising Hoffman Teachers, Matthew Pruen and Donna Lancaster, (Imago Relationship Coach). Discover how the Hoffman Relationship Workshops offer couples and singles the opportunity to learn a range of tools and techniques for more effective communication, increased empathy and understanding. All of which are transferable skills that will support you in all of your relationships.
Couples Workshop: Saturday 10th December
The workshop is from 9.00 - 5.30pm at Artworkers Guild, Bloomsbury London
Cost: £150 per person
"The relationship workshop allowed my husband and I to take a quantum leap forward in our relationship; far more than conventional couples counseling. Five months on, this is still true!" Caroline, October 2010
Singles Workshop: Saturday 21st January - 2012
The workshop is from 9.00 - 5.30pm at Artworkers Guild, Bloomsbury London
Cost: £150 per person
I wanted to thank you again for the super Singles Workshop in April!! Since the workshop I have met the loveliest man. While I don't know how things will go in the long run, I am very hopeful that we might actually continue to have a marvelous long-term and loving relationship. Ann, April 2011
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Hoffman Teacher - Needs your Help... Back to Top
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Hoffman Teacher, Tom Laughton is looking to work with families as part of his work to become an Imago Professional Facilitator. Imago dialogues offer very simple but powerful ways to open communication and Tom is very excited to bring this work to families that need it. If you feel that you could help Tom the please contact him on tom@hoffmaninstitute.co.uk
We would also like to congratulate Tom and Zoe on their marriage on Saturday 22nd October and wish them peace, love and happiness for the future.
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| Next Process Dates Back to Top |
November 4th - 11th, Florence House, East Sussex. UK
November 18th - 25th, Florence House, East Sussex. UK
December 2nd - 9th, Florence House, East Sussex. UK
Full listings of UK Process dates, visit our website. More Process Dates...
Want to find out More..? Hoffman Introduction Days - 25th February 2012
If you'd like to find out more about the Process and get a flavour of the tools and techniques, then come and join us and see if this could be perfect for you. More info & Book online
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| Information Evenings - Want to find out more? Back to Top | 
A great opportunity to meet the Hoffman Teachers and Process participants, ask questions, hear people's experiences and decide if the Process is right for you now, or in the future. From 7.30pm - 9.30pm they're free and there's no need to book.
Next Information Evening Dates:
Tuesday Nov 29th Regent's College, London
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| Support Call - Healthy Boundaries - Wednesday 9th November Back to Top |
For may of us that's much easier said than done..!
Being able to create and maintain healthy boundaries with partners, friends, family and work colleagues is an essential life skill, that enables us to live more authentically with greater respect and less conflict in our lives.
At its simplest it's about saying 'no', meaning it, and holding the boundary that the 'no' defines.
Of course there are all sorts of consequences and personal costs that tumble from our inability to protect ourselves from what we don't want, don't like and cannot agree to in our lives. And if we can't say 'no', what meaning does our 'yes' really have? Probably not much since we don't really know the difference.
This support call with Hoffman Teacher, Robert Digings will provide a space for you to explore your ability to say 'no' in your life, and the patterns that prevent you from doing so, in a way that affirms you and your sense of self worth. There'll be the chance to reflect on how your childhood is limiting your present and the opportunity to make a commitment to say 'no' and hold a life-affirming boundary that would seriously improve your life. If you're in any doubt about the importance of this - how can we value and respect others, if we can't do that for ourselves?
Click for more information and to book
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Closure Dates - Hoffman Graduates only Back to Top
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Closure is a wonderful opportunity to reconnect with the Process and nurture yourself.
Teachers: Mairi, Tom & Lisa
Teachers: Mairi, Matthew & Donna
'I always love to go to Closure even though I teach the work regularly. There is something wonderfully healing about witnessing new people remembering who they really are. It's so inspiring that my compassion and love for myself and others deepens every time.' Donna Lancaster
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Information Phone-In - Tuesday 8th November Back to Top
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 Join our monthly Information Phone-In and find out whether the Process is right for you. They are always lively with callers' questions, Hoffman Teachers and previous Process participants. Call from anywhere in the world, (local rate). 7.30 - 8.30pm GMT. Can't make this date? Next call is Tuesday Nov 22nd 7.30 - 8.30pm
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New Self Support Group - Stay connected in your area Back to Top
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Stephanos Kaisharis - new Self Support Group and would like to hear from any grads in SE19 London. Mal Barritt - new Self Support Group and would love to hear from other grads in the Manchester area. Lorna Clarke - new Self Support Group and would love to hear from other grads in the Bristol area.
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'Where there is anger, there is always pain underneath.' Eckhart Tolle |
Warm Wishes
The Hoffman Team
Hoffman Institute UK |
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