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I eagerly enrolled in the full seven-day Process in April 2023, determined to build upon the foundation of self-development I’d laid over the years. Despite many years of therapy, I could still feel the weight of a lifetime’s emotional baggage – much of it stemming from my childhood experiences.
Born in a hut in Hong Kong in 1960, my starving and destitute birth mother put me into an orphanage at 10 weeks. At 15 months old, I embarked on a journey that would shape the course of my life forever. I was sent to the UK to be adopted by a white British family who already had two biological children of their own. At first, life with my new family was filled with happiness and love. I have fond memories of my childhood, but as I entered my teenage years, cracks began to appear. The longing to uncover my roots grew stronger, fuelled by a persistent sense of displacement and a desire to unearth the truth about my origins. Yet my adoptive family remained silent on the matter, and tensions within the household escalated...
Looking back, I wish I had discovered Hoffman sooner. It might have spared me from many heartaches and added depth to my work as a therapist. I can now see how patterns have played out in my life. My adoptive mum was herself adopted and had a very difficult relationship with her own adoptive mother. Hoffman helped me embrace my family story with kindness and understanding, and to find healing and hope that will ripple on through generations, with my children and grandchildren.
I’d love for my family to all to have the wisdom and courage Hoffman has given me before they get to 60. But strangely, although I regret not sorting myself out sooner, I’m also able to look back with more compassion, understanding and forgiveness for my younger self. I now know she did the very best she could, with what she knew and had experienced. And it feels so good when I’m kinder to myself. Everybody deserves the chance to feel this way.'
Thank you to Laura for sharing her Process Story. You can read it in full here
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