Hoffman graduate e-newsletter | May 2019
Hoffman grad Hilary Gallo built a career out of solving complex negotiations for large corporate organisations. In 2016, he published his first book, The Power of Soft, outlining an ethos that 'started as a negotiation tactic and soon became a philosophy for life.' With the launch of his latest work, Fear Hack , Hilary has turned his attention to the role that fear can play in holding us back, and what we can do to challenge our fears.

'I noticed that people adopted positions an d became locked into what they believed was true. When they wanted a certain outcome, what kept them stuck was not the lack of will to do it but the fact that they simply didn’t act. It wasn’t long before I also saw this pattern in myself...

Eventually a consistent theme emerged - fear. By this I mean fear in the widest possible sense – not just fear of what might go wrong, but fear of loss, abandonment or uncertainty masked as fear. What I noticed was that fear was the substrata to most of life’s sticky issues. Where there was a problem, there was generally fear sitting at its heart...'

To read Hilary's article in full, plus five questions we can use to challenge our fears, click here.
To find out more about Hilary’s work and upcoming events over the summer, visit: www.hilarygallo.com/fearhack
Celebrating the life force of earth protector Polly Higgins
We're practicing gratitude and appreciation for having encountered the extraordinary spirit of Polly Higgins , environmental campaigner and our charitable partner who sadly passed away last week .

Polly was an inspirational figure in the environmental movement, working tirelessly to give a voice to our planet by campaigning for the crime of ecocide. Her work will be carried on by her eradicating ecocide team and by the ever-growing community of earth protectors that she helped to launch.

Polly, you will always be a shining light in our universe. When we joined with Earth Community Trust we created the tag line together: ‘Where inner and outer worlds meet.’ You embodied that in everything that you did, and we will always remember you. Thank you for being such a friend and champion of the Hoffman Process.
Let's send a huge wave of support to all Hoffies running the 2019 Virgin London Marathon today - the biggest single-day fundraising event in the UK charity calendar.

Hoffman grad Karen Astbury will be one of the 40 thousand runners lining up this morning. Karen was inspired to take part by her friendship with children's author Jo Yaldren , who she met on the Process. Karen says;

'Jo was my roommate at Florence House. During that week we laughed together, cried together, danced together and stayed silent together, and I knew instantly I had met a kindred spirit. Learning of Jo’s Parkinson’s diagnosis not long after we graduated was devastating, but watching her draw on every bit of her Hoffman spirit since then has been nothing short of inspiring.

Taking part in the London Marathon has always been an ambition, and running for Jo and Parkinson’s UK will be an honour. It’s been a team effort, and together we have raised over £6,000, raised awareness, and inspired others. Jo - this is for you!'

You can sponsor Karen by visiting her fundraising page here
Do you have a Process Story you'd like to share? We'd love to hear from you!
Either call the office on +44 (0)1903 88 99 90 or  email: info@hoffmaninstitute.co.uk
The team at iCAAD host global conferences 'dedicated to expanding knowledge, exchanging ideas, advancing wellbeing and the prevention and treatment of behavioural, mental, and emotional health issues.'

Their flagship conference in London this year takes place from Monday 6 to Wednesday 8 May at the Royal Garden Hotel in Kensington.

iCAAD have kindly offered a 20% discount to members of the Hoffman community. To take advantage of the offer, simply enter the discount code HOFF20 when booking.

While the conference is open to all, iCAAD 2019 is CPD certified for professionals, so your attendance could qualify towards your annual CPD requirements, depending on your field of work.

The team are also seeking volunteers to help at sessions and with stewarding. If that's of interest, email mandy@icaad.com for details and to sign up.

You can view the session programme, check out speakers and book tickets on the iCAAD website, here.
Hoffman Relationship workshops with Matthew & Emma Pruen
Most of us face relationship struggles at some point and often feel ill-equipped to deal with them. Our new two-day workshop, developed and led by Matthew and Emma Pruen, will focus on your current relationship and teach you practical tools and techniques to help you find real breakthrough.

The workshop will employ a combination of methods and learnings, including techniques from the Hoffman Process, psychotherapist David Richo and Imago Relationship Therapy. It's suitable for couples and for individuals who are currently in a relationship, whether you have done the Hoffman Process or not.

Matthew says; 'The intention of the course is to get couples connected again - through clear communication, witnessing each other and rebuilding respect, trust and intimacy.'

So save the dates! Saturday 29 and Sunday 30 June
Venue: St Luke's , Islington, EC1V 8AJ
Price: £300 per person per day

To register your interest, email info@hoffmaninstitute.co.uk with your name(s) and contact details.
Reconnection Days refresh your Hoffman learning in the company of a supportive group of fellow Hoffies. They allow you to revisit the tools and techniques, ask questions about any you're not clear on and work through any current issues in your life. June's Reconnection Day will be led by senior Hoffman facilitator Emma Ferguson.

If you’re facing a life challenge - at work, in a relationship, or with health, stress or self-esteem - don't feel you need to keep going it alone - reconnect!

Time: Arrive from 9.30am for a 10am start. Finishes at 5pm.
Venue: Guild of Psychotherapists , London SE1 0QA
Led by: Emma Ferguson

For more information and to book, click here

If you’re not able to make this Reconnection Day, the next one in London is in September. For more information, click here

Breaking news... There'll also be a Reconnection Day in Co. Wicklow, Ireland on Saturday 10 August. Full details in the next newsletter!
The American Institute call their version of the graduate Q2 ' Transformation: Beyond Mom and Dad .' It does what it says on the tin.

On either side of the Atlantic, Q2 is an intense refresher. It provides a three-day space to reconnect with your Process experience, to brush up your tools and and to shine a Hoffman light on any new issues coming up for you today - or any unfinished issues you might still have. You'll also work on refining your Process Vision.

You can do Q2 as a couple, with siblings, and with other Hoffman friends. It doesn't matter whether your original Process was in the UK or overseas.

May's Q2 will be led by Matthew Pruen, Mairi Russell and Emma Ferguson (pictured).

Venue:  Florence House , East Sussex
Price:  £975

For more information,   click here .
Our next Q2 will take place from 29 Nov to 1 Dec. For details, click here.
Led by members of the Hoffman team, our evening gatherings offer the chance to connect, share and deepen your learning.

Hoffman-led London support group
For more information and to book,  click here

Hoffman-led  Sussex support group
Date:   Friday 31 May
For more information and to book,  click here

Hoffman-led Bristol s upport group
For more information and to book, click here
Next Bristol date: Wednesday 16 October

We also list details on our website of anyone happy to be a contact/meeting co-ordinator for grads in their local area. Social meetups on the radar include Manchester on 11 May and Bath on Sunday 26 May.
Click here to visit the graduate connection page - you'll need the password: 'support.'
Closure evenings  are held on Process Thursdays from 5pm. They're open to all Hoffman graduates, regardless of where and when you did your Process - w e also love to see Process groups returning on their anniversary.

Re-experience the ceremony of integration, celebrate with new grads, share your Post-Process experience and recommit to your Hoffman vow. Dinner is on us. 

Florence House (East Sussex)
9 May with Janet, Matthew and Holger
30 May with Emma, Tim and Julia
13 June with Matthew, Mairi and Emma
27 June with Jeremy, Janet and Julia

Click here   for a full list of Closure dates. There's no charge for Closure, but please do  email and let us know or call the office if you're planning to come on 01903 88 99 90.
* When a Process is on a Wait List, a place may still become available.
Ring the office on 01903 88 99 90 for details.
Information Evenings:

Information Phone-In:

Introduction Day:

Process Dates:
May 4-10: Wait List
May 25-31: Available
June 8-14: Available
June 22-28: Available
July 6-12: Available
July 20-26: Available
August 3-9: Available
August 17-23: Available
August 24-30: Available

For a full calendar of Hoffman Process dates, click here.
May's top tip: how critical are you?
Listen out for those moments this month when you might be drawn to be critical of others. Who did you learn that pattern from?

Make a conscious effort to stop worrying about how other people are behaving, and start to focus on whether you might demonstrate some of those behaviours yourself.

If you spot it, you've got it. Time to download a Transference worksheet?

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