Along with his sister Kate, actor Oliver Hudson co-hosts a podcast series called Sibling Revelry which explores the sibling bond, family dynamics, the world of wellbeing and more. In an episode called Let the games begin on 18 March 2024, Oliver (pictured below with his mother, actress Goldie Hawn) shares his experience of the Hoffman Process with their guests, Bode Miller and Morgan Beck. You can read an excerpt from the transcript below, or click here to find the episode in full.
‘I did this course called the Hoffman Institute, which was like a really powerful thing for me, where you’re sort of unpacking the patterns that have been put upon you from your parents and then step parents as well. The idea is that we have negative love in our lives because in order to survive, we need love of some kind and sometimes it’s not healthy love, but we attach ourselves to those things.
And so this course was all about understanding what these patterns were and kind of learning how to break through them and kind of building your toolbox. It’s an incredible week of enlightenment on who your parents were are. The forgiveness and the compassion that you feel towards them at the end of this process is unbelievable because then you realize that they’re only repeating the shit that they went through, you know, with their parents. The forgiveness of my father was huge because his dad left him when he was five years old – in the middle of the night, gone. You know, my dad didn’t do exactly that, but essentially he bailed, you know, so I can’t always help. But think when we’re parenting, like what am I imprinting..?
I went in there thinking that it was going to all be about my dad and then Kurt, you know what I mean, my stepdad who raised me, but whatever that connection was, and then my dad who wasn’t there. My mom was going to sort of, you know, be easy breezy, because she was always the constant in my life. It was, it totally flipped on its head. My mother was the one that came up the most. My mother was the one that I had almost the most trauma about, interestingly enough, because she was my primary caregiver and I was with her all of the time, so I felt unprotected at times. She would be working away, or she had new boyfriends that I didn’t really like. She would she’d be living her life and she was an amazing mother. This was my own perceptions as a child who didn’t have a dad and who needed her to be there, you know, and she just wasn’t sometimes, and she came out far more than even my dad who wasn’t there. But when I was with him, it was incredible. He paid attention to me. We played football, we played basketball, we were on the beach, he taught me to fish. I mean, he was so present, but he just was never there, you know what I mean? So it was really a perspective shifter for me, for sure.’
Thank you to Oliver for sharing his thoughts about the Process. You can find the podcast episode here
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