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‘Since doing the Process, my internal world has started to shift and there’s a greater sense of self-appreciation and gratitude in many of my days’
‘ I’ve tried many therapies and the Hoffman Process is a bona fide one; a brand to be trusted. I leave with a box of tools. There’s no magic wand inside. Just techniques and a lot of work to do to continue to break a lifetime of patterns.’
‘ Looking back, I wish I had discovered Hoffman sooner. It might have spared me from many heartaches and added depth to my work as a therapist.’
‘ I learnt that a healthy relationship is one in which I can be the real me and not one in which I feel the need to suppress my true thoughts and feelings.’
‘This is not a success story and I have no advice to give you. All I have are a few impressions emanating from two facts: one, I did the Hoffman Process and two, my life changed completely.’
‘Post Process, everything in my life has changed for the better. I’ve gone from having a ‘cup half empty’ to a ‘cup half full’ outlook on life.’
‘Getting in touch with my biological mum helped me realise that I am loved and loveable…’
‘I’m loyal to the belief that I couldn’t do what I do now without doing the Hoffman Process first..’
‘I had very clearly constructed the villains and heroes of my childhood experience and I had no intention whatsoever of forgiving anybody, because I was so firmly stuck in that narrative. So when that happened, and compassion and forgiveness naturally came in, it was very unexpected…’
‘A decade later, I reckon I show up in the world better than I’ve done at any time previously, and the more I put into practice what I learned, the better things get. ‘
‘This course is not only for people with problems, it’s also for people who want more from life.’
‘My attitude to life now is very different. The constant conflicting thoughts and internal dialogue that used to endlessly chatter and judge are hardly there.’
‘I did the Process in 2008 soon after meeting Simon and it was great to be able to share a common language… I feel lucky we both have the Hoffman community in our lives’
‘My week at Florence House, the Process venue, ranks amongst the most challenging, most enjoyable and most memorable times of my life. After nearly half a century, I’ve totally forgiven my father’
‘Doing the Process made it blindingly clear to me that the early hours, days, weeks, months of my life mattered enormously in shaping the patterns of feeling, thinking and behaviour that made up my personality. … ‘
‘I knew I had to do something drastic to challenge my habits and take me well outside my comfort zone… ‘
‘There was a door in my heart marked ‘dad,’ but I was determined not to open it and allow in the feelings of abandonment, anger and pain…’
‘When my husband asked me for a divorce, plunging my heart into despair, a voice within me whispered ‘time to do the work’ and I remembered a friend telling me about how doing the Hoffman Process had saved her marriage.’
‘Since the Process, I like myself more and I’m able to be more respectful of others and can contain my frustration and temper better… I think I’m more compassionate and able to see the humanity in others.’
‘ It gave me faith and hope that I could build a future that I could really look forward to. That maybe life isn’t this dark, unforgiving sentence, but instead something that could be joyous, peaceful and even magical.”
‘I had no idea what my own future held, and that thought – along with the growing sense of loneliness that came with it – became a constant companion…’
‘I believe going with an open mind, heart and soul ready to give oneself fully to the Process can be life-changing and is ageless…’
‘I believe it’s the conversations people don’t have, as opposed to the ones they do have, that can cause the most damage…’
‘The past few years since the Process have been hugely transformational for me…’
‘Having experienced the Process first hand, I can recommend it to any fellow therapist as well as to clients, from a deep understanding of what it can achieve.’
‘I realised a life without vulnerability is a life without intimacy. One cannot be achieved without the other.’Read More »
‘As our families and communities become increasingly fractured, it seems the human need to know where we belong intensifies…’Read More »
‘In getting out of my comfort zone, I found a way to connect at a deeper level and feel emotions that allowed me to feel truly alive.’Read More »
‘I noticed that people adopted positions and became locked into what they believed was true. When they wanted a certain outcome, what kept them stuck was not the lack of will to do it but the fact that they simply didn’t act…’Read More »
‘Once you do the Process, you become more self-aware and more emotionally resourced. That means you go back into your life a more useful member of society’.
‘The essence of Hoffman, as I experienced it, was to restore the connection to the authentic self….’Read More »
‘It’s a commitment, undertaking the Hoffman Process, and it’s a commitment to ourselves to gift time for our own self-development. That takes courage, and I’m proud to have done it.’Read More »
‘ Hoffman made me realise that self-care and personal development benefit everyone in my life, whether family or friends or the community I live in…’Read More »
‘At 17, I would have run away with anyone, I was so desperate to escape the conflict and abuse at home…’Read More »
‘I had internalised a critical voice that at times left me feeling contemptuous of myself; prone to self-judgement, disappointment and restlessness.’Read More »
‘In the cab ride home from the Hoffman Process, I felt elevated, radiating confidence and contentment. I recall wondering how long that feeling would last…’Read More »
‘Even the darkest hours were not enough to make me change…until the day I took an honest look at myself and my family and realised how much my negative thoughts and patterns were impacting my two sons…’Read More »
‘The Process reinforced and confirmed what I knew through the Alexander Technique: that we think, move and feel as a whole. Our body, emotions and mind are intricately connected. We’re a unit and we act and change as a unit…’Read More »
‘I was losing a grip on myself and my life as I entered adulthood. I knew if I didn’t try something, I would end up sabotaging my life and the music career I so desperately wanted…’Read More »
‘Career-wise, things were going really well. I enjoyed running a salon and day spa in London which I’d built from scratch to the point where I employed a team of 14 employees – but my personal life was another story…’Read More »
Is chronic pain a purely physical phenomenon, or is it actually linked to emotional stress? With Dr David Hanscom.Read More »
‘Identifying the roles we adopt in childhood can be key to changing behaviour patterns, so that we set ourselves free to express ourselves more authentically.’Read More »
‘Codependency starts in childhood with our family of origin and stems from how our dependency needs were or weren’t met…’ Read Susan’s article and take her ’10 signs of codependency’ quizRead More »
In this fast-paced world, switching off is ever more challenging. The Process is full of techniques and tools to help you stay present and relaxed, so here’s a collection of suggestions from our Hoffman team. Read More »
A successful business consultant with a passion for self development, when Aidan was diagnosed with a brain tumour, he realised that it would take everything he’d learned and more to pull himself back from the brink…Read More »
For 23 years, Denise Quinlan’s work included business development, marketing, sales and partnering roles for IT companies. Caught in a high-pressure corporate environment driven by quarterly targets, she began to question what it was all about. Two years and one amazing road-trip later, her days couldn’t be more different. Read More »
I love the Process because it’s such a great ‘clutter-bluster’. The stuff that we inherit becomes our ‘stuck’ patterns of behaviour, but we may be missing what’s very obvious to everyone around us. The Process acts as a psychological spring clean to create a healthier personal environment.”Read More »
In this interview, Hoffman UK founder and author, Tim Laurence, reminds us that long-lasting change only happens if you change from the inside and commit to new behaviour. Happiness doesn’t happen just by hanging more baubles on the Christmas tree… Read More »
‘Society often treats death as the final taboo, yet at some point all of us have to deal with the loss of someone we love. On the Hoffman Process one of the most common issues we help with is unmourned loss. In a society which admires a stiff upper lip, so few of us are allowed to fully express heartbreak when it happens.’ Read More »
For Bermudian success coach Julia Pitt, the famous triangle more accurately described a tricky relationship between her young son, herself and her ex-husband. Then in June 2013, she flew to the UK to do the Hoffman Process and got to the bottom of the mystery…Read More »
Hilary Gallo started his career as a lawyer and went on to carve a niche both as a negotiator of complex deals and as a leader in the IT and services industry. Going through the Hoffman Process in 2010 gave him insights which he took back to the workplace, as well as his own life, to great effect. Here he explains how he developed the idea of The Power of Soft – How to get what you need and still be nice, which is the title of his upcoming book…Read More »
In her mid-20s, Manuela Berger realised that her successful career in hospitality ticked everybody’s boxes but her own. During a year off to get some clarity she did the Hoffman Process. At first she felt it hadn’t ‘worked’ but then she found an unexpected new direction…Read More »
Many of us attribute our stress levels to the hectic pace of today’s lifestyle but our nervous system is actually conditioned from a young age. So if you’re stuck in ‘flight or fight’ mode or anxiety is easily triggered, it can pay to take a look at your childhood. Hoffman Graduate and singer songwriter Lotte Mullan did exactly that and after years of therapy and depression she found unexpected peace.Read More »
Are you tired of people asking: ‘What are you doing for Christmas?’ It seems you’re expected to have a plan. But what if a traditional Christmas doesn’t work for you? Maybe there are family estrangements or you’re facing your first Christmas without a loved one? We posed this question to author and former agony aunt Lesley Garner who did the Hoffman Process in 2003. Here’s her advice.Read More »
A few years ago Hoffman graduate Joan Borysenko and her husband went on a low fat vegan diet to combat health problems only to find their symptoms worsened. As a cell biologist, Joan’s curiosity was piqued – how could the best advice make things worse? She spent the next 3 years reviewing the latest literature on nutrition and recent discoveries in epigenetics. (Simply put, epigenetics studies the factors which influence whether we activate our genetic tendencies – if your family is historically overweight, for example, does this mean that you will be too?). Read More »
In this fast-paced world switching off is ever more challenging – even on holiday we seem to be attached to our phones and iPads as though they were extensions of ourselves. In contrast, when you arrive at the Hoffman Process you’re asked to put your phone away so you can focus on yourself and the present moment. Although many people find this very difficult at first they eventually find it so liberating they’re often reluctant to turn them back on! Read More »
How often do you do something for the sheer joy of doing it? Never mind if it achieves anything or has a point to it – it’s just glorious fun. For Priya Kapoor guilt-free fun was a distant memory until she did the Hoffman Process in 2009. With a Master’s degree in counselling psychology, and after working for years as a therapist, she felt that Hoffman was very much a ‘last ditch effort to save my personal life’.Read More »
After author and nutrition expert Patrick Holford did the Hoffman, he found a new passion emerging. Having spent years studying human nature he now felt drawn to explore nature herself; specifically the vast breathtaking landscapes of Africa. As so often happens when we follow our hearts he met a kindred spirit (and fellow Hoffman graduate), Don Young, who has spent much of his life as a conservationist and safari guide. The outcome of their chance meeting is both creative and inspiring.Read More »
After Strategy Director Thiru Wallman did the Hoffman Process in 2009 she came back much more confident about starting a family with her husband James, a journalist and trend forecaster. James did the Process two months later and in 2013, when their little girl was two, the couple decided to ‘go for the dream rather than the treadmill’.Read More »
‘I felt lucky to have done it so young and I honestly wish everyone could experience doing the Process.‘
‘It was the beginning of a journey to a completely different life. A life that I never imagined and that is extraordinary and exciting…”
‘Not only did I need to change, but I wanted to. I hadn’t had any therapy or counselling previously, but felt this was for me…”
‘It turns out I wasn’t broken after all – I was just taking on other people’s ideas of who I was…’
‘Since I completed the Process, I’ve seen and experienced how there can be post-traumatic growth’.
”Leaving the Process, I felt a peace and calmness I’d never felt before – a kind of eternal happiness, even when I was still’.
‘The Hoffman Process created a safe environment for me to start to air things I’d never dared share, and when those things were met with empathy, it helped me start to wrestle free of them’
‘If there’s a small part of you which is intrigued, don’t let that scepticism and doubt win out… Pop your ego aside for a moment and just sign up. ‘
‘I came back from the Process more aware and more engaged. It gave me the courage to face my fears…’
‘ I feel happier and spend more time in the present, rather than dwelling on the past or worrying about the future.’
‘What’s money for if not for putting your house in order? The Process is the perfect place to do it – I couldn’t put a price on it.’
‘My relationship with my family is better, and crucially, more authentic, rather than based on some sense of obligation or habit.’
‘Growing up in an atmosphere where children were ‘seen and not heard’ and being at a boy’s school meant I never learned to share my feelings – especially with women. Since the Process, I’m far more open and emotionally articulate.’
‘How would you know if you are love dependent? How would you recognise it? Quiz and top tips from relationship expert Sabine Young, MA’
‘I began to realise that I was standing in the way of my own happiness. Time to step off the hamster wheel of familial and career duty, and ask some searching questions of myself…’
‘A friend recently said that it’s as if a dark cloud has lifted from around me. I feel relaxed and more positive about myself and my future. People have commented that I don’t dwell on my past now and live more in the present…’
‘Since doing the Process, feeling 100% authentically happy has felt achievable. There’s something about being able to picture and remember what that felt like during the Process which has enabled me to know instinctively ‘how’…’
‘I first came across the Hoffman when my husband Rupert attended the Process in 2008. He returned so much calmer, I couldn’t believe how much happier he was in his own skin… ‘
‘Now I finally believe in myself, I trust that I know the best way forward. The compassion, stability and fulfillment I’ve always craved now starts from within… ‘
‘I could not be more grateful in these times of lockdown and physical distancing, to have invested in Hoffman…’
‘I believe the Process saved my life. It was the best thing I’ve ever done and spent money on. Strong words, but true and certainly from the heart’
‘Doing the Process freed up my attitude and helped me challenge my patterns of perfectionism. I now try to approach everything as a learning experience…”
‘Despite having a daily meditation practice, exercising frequently and eating a healthy diet, I knew that there were still things in my past that hadn’t been resolved that were causing me to feel fearful, resentful and full of self-doubt…’
‘I was doing the equivalent of pressing down hard on the accelerator while not having the vehicle in gear… How freeing it was to realise that I could change my behaviours’
‘We all bring something uniquely valuable to the world, and that should be recognised and celebrated not only when our time comes, but also while we are still here.’
‘I have become increasingly interested in the correlation between the actual physical journey and the emotional journey. How when we ride into new lands and unfamiliar territories, we also open up the possibility of internal exploration and understanding…
‘We hadn’t really spent time away from each other before, and it was strange knowing that I wouldn’t be able to text or ring for a whole week, but it actually went by really quickly…’
‘I am proud of what I achieved during and after the Process. I’m so incredibly happy to be calmer and to be coming from a place of love instead of rage’.
‘On the Process I really knew that I was fundamentally OK, and this is the assumption under which I now operate. It feels different and wonderful.’
‘I felt as if I could achieve anything, and I literally mean anything – as if there was absolutely nothing holding me back…’
‘I still get irritated and riled, but less often and less intensely. I still have resentments, but milder and fewer of them. My relationships have improved and I feel my life is better in every way…’Read More »
‘I left the Hoffman Process full of optimism, hope, and a new sense of vigour… the trouble was that I didn’t know what I wanted to change.’Read More »
‘Now here I was with nothing to distract me from the inner turmoil I was having to face. No props left…’Read More »
‘The signs of the disease were already there while I was at Florence House… I‘m ashamed to say that despite 26 years of nursing (and university nursing teaching), I didn’t join the dots. Without Hoffman, I don’t know how I would have coped.’Read More »
‘I was vegetarian, meditating every day, practicing yoga, filling my mind with untold wisdom and feeding my spirit, how – HOW? – could there be parts of me that were still unhappy?’Read More »
‘…most of us feel like our ordinary pain isn’t valid. We shut down and keep our stories to ourselves. We pretend we‘re happy and grateful and yet still live in pain or numbness. What’s amazing about the Process is that I was able to face these kinds of problems without judgement or criticism…’Read More »
‘In the two years since I graduated from the Hoffman Process, I was awarded an MBE, I completed a marathon, travelled extensively, and am now working full time. If someone had told me I could have achieved all of this before I did the Hoffman Process, I simply wouldn’t have believed them…’Read More »
‘I’d learned to hide my emotions and ignore my real needs. That worked for as long as I could remember, but what led me to book the course was the inability to do it any more…’Read More »
‘Success in business often takes a huge personal toll on the leader; without a sense of vision, imagination and the tools to overcome obstacles, I’m not sure if I would have emerged intact. I have a lot to thank Hoffman for…’Read More »
‘We’d overcome monumental hurdles together, and shared a long history, which I’d truly believed would be for life. He was on a yacht – and I was on my knees…’Read More »
‘During the Process I was finally able to completely forgive my Dad for ‘abandoning’ me. I could understand how he felt and re-connect with him in ways I never thought possible’Read More »
‘Once I got home, Mirjam and I began to re-establish ourselves as a couple – only this time we had greater awareness of our patterns, habits and pitfalls and great new tools to support each other…’Read More »
‘I had almost zero understanding of what marriage was, and not a lot of understanding of who I was. So, unsurprisingly, the marriage failed…’Read More »
‘Through doing the Process, I looked closely and clearly at the circumstances in which I was raised, and found the ability to finally understand and forgive… ‘Read More »
‘What does it mean for a ten-year-old boy, barely four foot tall, to leave home? One boy’s boarding school story’Read More »
‘After years searching for a relationship that worked, award-winning International Family Lawyer Ayesha Vardag did the Hoffman Process…’ Read More »
‘Just when we all need a little pick-me-up, two actresses and a writer share their thoughts on doing the Hoffman Process and how we all have the right to be ‘Absolutely Fabulous’…’ Read More »
‘In a bid to understand and heal her own story, Eleanor found the voice for her most recent novel, A Daughter’s Secret, which dramatically describes the dance of the Daddy’s Girl. She offers tips to anyone living with narcissism or its legacy – because ‘when it’s all about me, it’s never about you…’Read More »
“Once you start to wrestle consciously with living in the present, having adolescents around whose instincts are to do nothing else but that is actually a great help. They pull you into the moment like nothing else…” Read More »
“Our bodies tend to mould themselves around our emotional experience so that we develop habits of posture and areas of physical tension and guarding which reflect our perception of reality. In fact, if we can learn to listen, our body relays information to us about how we feel in a constant information loop.”Read More »
‘In 1998 Betty did one of the earliest UK Processes and has been one of its greatest supporters ever since. Whenever someone asks if it’s too late to do the Process because they’re ‘too old to change’ Betty’s bright blue eyes and radiant smile come to mind…’ Read More »
‘Negotiations aren’t reserved for business. They happen every day with everyone around us. We negotiate our way through life from the nursery to the grave…’ Stephen shares his top tips on negotiation and communication.’Read More »
‘Relationship coach and Montessori teacher Carole Saad used to run her own nursery, so she assumed she’d be a ‘natural’ mother. However, when she had children of her own, Carole realised there was another element that she hadn’t considered – the differences in parenting styles between her and her husband, Nadim…Read More »
Psychologist Frederique Bicker has a practice in Amsterdam helping clients with a wide range of challenges, including stress. She also has a background of treating addiction at the Priory in London. Here she explains why she believes treating stress holistically gets the best results.Read More »
A foundation stone of the Hoffman Process is building an awareness of the patterns that run our lives. Here Hoffman UK founder Tim Laurence explains why it’s so helpful to identify our patterns, where they come from and the easiest way to unravel them.Read More »
If the very idea of New Year’s Resolutions makes you want to do something that is fattening, illegal or immoral, you’ll love this fresh approach pioneered by Hoffman Graduate and Performance Coach Kelly Anne Buckley. Feeling that traditional goal-setting reflected outmoded values, Kelly got together with another performance coach and invented a joyful new recipe for making resolutions. It not only works but it’s really fun to achieve.Read More »
One of the most common reasons that people contact Hoffman is because they feel stuck. Often an area of life feels as if it keeps repeating with little excitement or fulfillment. One way to get out of a rut is to look at the story you tell yourself about your life and your role in it. Psychotherapist Heide Baumann, who did the Process in 2007, is an expert in this approach.Read More »
From the gangland areas of Glasgow and Edinburgh as a young Minister to the present day as a celebrated international speaker and author, Norman Drummond’s life and work embodies a personal commitment to leadership and to developing talent in others. He is a Chaplain to Her Majesty The Queen in Scotland, a Fellow of the Royal Society of Edinburgh and a Visiting Professor of Leadership in Education at the University of Edinburgh.Read More »
Co-dependent patterns are usually handed down unconsciously through families. We generally grow up mimicking or in some way reacting to the way that people around us behave without questioning whether it’s in our best interests. Relationship and communication skills aren’t usually part of the educational curriculum but they are critical to success in our work life as well as to our personal happiness.Read More »
In 1997 Times journalist and working mother Rachel Kelly descended with shocking suddenness from a state of mild anxiety into a state of disabling depression. Over the next six years she gradually began to recover but was then hit by another bout of depression even worse than the first. This is her inspiring story of recovery which she is sharing in the hope of helping others.Read More »
The imposing granite walls of Raasay House stand on the stunningly beautiful Isle of Raasay near Skye, off the west coast of Scotland. Historically the seat of the Macleod clan, the original house was burned down in 1746. More recently the house has relived its dramatic past in another conflagration but, despite tremendous setbacks, the current guardians have fulfilled their promise that it would once more rise from the ashes. It’s a story of extraordinary tenacity, love and courage and over the past decade each of them came to the Hoffman Process for inspiration.Read More »
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